The person is a US citizin who has lived here for 20 years and now feels ashamed of both their Russian and Ukrainian roots, but also now hates Biden because they believe the Biden admin is fuelling the fire without cause and that 'we should stay out of it.
I thought it was interesting but not surprising that, while I talked about 'Russia's invasion,' my acquaintance only said 'Putin's war' and feels that Putin singularly is the cause and the full power in the situation, and that Zelenskyy is 'a little man with little-man complex' who is also acting out of a personal vendetta because Putin refused to respect him as president given his prior career and stature. They are worried that Putin will feel so backed into a corner that he will explode violently with nukes in Europe, and who would win, then? They said they are upset because, to them, having grown up in eastern Ukraine, there's little difference between Russian and Ukraine people and cultures, and "it's not like Putin was going to go in and make a Holocaust of Ukraine people-but now, who knows? Maybe he will! He is crazy!" This person's view is that Putin needs to be pacified because he is being humiliated in front of the world and he is a dangerous narcissist and sociopath whose personal humiliation would to him substantiate using nuclear weapons. I saw the person last week and they were really distraught about it, but surprisingly, they were most enraged at Zelenskyy for being an antagonist. The person said just prior to the invasion that the people they knew in Ukraine didn't want any kind of conflict and they were worried about media attention potentially antagonizing a war. I know someone who always described themself to me as Russian, but told me just before Russia invaded Ukraine that they grew up in eastern Ukraine and always have described themself as Russian so they don't have to explain what Ukraine is/the difference to ignorant people. Ukraine flags are draped all over the city in support. I live in Washington, DC, very near to a Ukrainian cultural center and the residence of the French ambassador, which has a miniature Lady Liberty on its front lawn, now draped in the Ukraine flag, and the residence is lit up in blue and yellow uplights.
This could have a significant impact on my professional life. How can I overcome this fear? My deadline for resubmitting the article is fast approaching. I think, deep down, I don't feel good enough to be published in a top journal. I've done a lot of other things professionally that scare me, such as presenting at conferences I thought were out of my league. I've successfully revised and resubmitted articles before. And then I realized, for whatever reason, revising and resubmitting this article is my greatest fear. Yesterday, I set aside the entire day to finally get started. Have not revised a single word, read a single secondary source, even looked at the original article in light of the readers' comments. I have had months to work on my revisions and I have completed NOTHING.
What initially started as wonderful news has turned into something of a nightmare. The editors liked my article and believe, with revisions, it has a good chance of being published. Lo and behold, I received a revise and resubmit and two very thorough reviewer reports this spring. I summited it on a whim, never really thinking they would accept it. Several months ago, I submitted an article to the top journal in my field. How does one overcome paralyzing fear/anxiety about completing a task? I deleted his phone number and blocked him on social media. I will never hear from him again.Īnd I feel SO STUPID for trying to be this asshole’s friend! I can’t believe I did this to myself AGAIN!įuck it. Apparently the amount of time it will take him to text me and continue this friendship is forever. I’m not texting him back and I want to see how long it takes for him to text me.įorever. So I thought, well this has to be a two-way street. I texted him for a week and mostly was left on read or got short, succinct responses. Can we be friends again? Do you want to be friends again? We struck an uneasy agreement that we would start by texting one another again just to check in.
But the next day I texted him again and said I don’t feel like this is resolved. He said he was sorry I felt that way which just pissed me off. After 5 months, I texted him and said it seems like we’re not friends anymore and that was your decision, but it hurt because I really needed a friend and you vanished. Short version of the story: we dated, broke up, remained friends for a year and a half, The week my mother died, he ghosted me.